I had a conversation recently with a young twenty-something person who was telling me that they had just enjoyed a day at a certain outdoor recreational area. When I inquired as to how this person was able to go to this particular place, because one is required to show an ID tag that proves that they live in a certain subdivision , this person simply shrugged and said " Oh, I just made up an address and that was good enough." When giving me this answer, this individual had a total "ho hum, so what " attitude. There seemed to be no concern about honesty or telling the truth.

I had to wonder " Is this becoming common place?" Apparently it is.

Another conversation that I had a few years back was with an eleven year old who was on Facebook. I was a bit surprised about that because I know that Facebook's regulations state that a person must be at least thirteen years of age to join. Of course, there is no possible way that Facebook can monitor this and it is incumbent upon the public to use the honor system. We all know how well that works , especially when adolescents are involved. What was odd about this situation though is that I know this child's family and so I was startled to hear the answer that this kid gave when I asked her if she was aware of the FB rule that she needed to be at least thirteen to be on that social media site? She simply shrugged and nonchalantly said " Oh yeah, I know...but my mom and dad just told me to type in that I was thirteen when I signed up."

Really?  And did you have that conversation on your way to church? Just wondering.

Forgive my sarcasm, but what are we really all about ? We take our kids to church, we teach them about the Bible, we talk about virtues of honesty, truthfulness, and the woes of lying and being deceptive yet do we live the opposite when it is convenient to do so?

I remember well an incident in my own life. Our grandson Trent was had just turned seven years old and he was visiting us. Our other grandson Benny was three and we were on our way to " Kids in Motion" which is an indoor recreational place for young children filled with inflatable slides, moon bounces, obstacle courses etc. Kids in Motion has two play sessions, the first session is for smaller children ages six and under. The second session is for older kids ages seven to twelve. Trent was smaller and skinnier than many five and six year olds at the time and I knew that it would be perfectly safe for him to play with Benny and the younger kids in the earlier session plus that is what we wanted so that my two grandsons could play together. Since I had always brought Trent to the earlier session in the past when he was six years old, I never even thought about his age change being an issue and so I was not prepared for the question that the lady at the desk asked us when we walked in. As I was paying the admission fee, she casually said " How old are your grandsons?" As soon as she asked the question, I knew why. She wanted to make sure that both boys were six and under. Right at that second, guess what happened?

My deceptive juices began to flow. I knew that Trent was seven but I certainly did not want to say that. I wanted to quietly say " they are three and six" however we all know how proud little children are of their age. I knew that if I dare say that Trent was six, he would louldy proclaim " No I'm not Mimi, remember...I am seven now !!!" - So when the lady asked the age question, I hesitated for just a second and stared at Trent. He just looked at me and waited for me to answer. I turned to the lady and said " this one is three, and my older grandson just turned seven but he is smaller and lighter than a lot of six year olds so would it be okay if he still was allowed to go into this first session since my grandsons want to play together?"  She looked at Trent and smiled and said " Sure...because you are right, we have bigger kids than him in there right now already playing."  Whew...I passed the test , but barely. What I mean by that is that I seriously thought about lying for a second and saying " He is six"...but what would that have taught my grandson who was waiting and watching to hear his Mimi's answer? The lesson he would have learned is that it is apparently okay to lie when convenient because his Mimi just did so. God help me from ever showing that sort of example to any of my grand babies.

Just a small example there of how we are all faced with choices of honesty in our every day lives. We have all experienced similar incidents and will continue to face them. Folks are dishonest routinely in this life. Many cheat on their taxes, lie on resumes, not to mention the countless lies that are told with tongues in verbal conversations daily.

What is the answer ? Only one...admit, confess , repent, and ask God to help us each and every time we find ourselves failing in this area. God's word says that lying is an abomination in God's eyes. That means that it literally makes God sick to his stomach. If that is the case, how and why have we so easily excused ourselves and let ourselves off the hook about it ? It is valid question and one that deserves an honest answer.

Something for us all to think about.....honestly.