I have something on my heart. Something gnawing at me just a bit. Whenever that is the case, I usually go to my blog to try to convey a few thoughts and I sincerely hope that it can be a help. I truly do.

We are all flawed folks , are we not ? The Bible calls us all sinners and anyone who would disagree is simply not being genuinely honest. We are all capable of lying, squabbling, offending, envying, criticizing, suspecting and you name it. What that means is that we will all have misunderstandings, negative feelings, and just flat out grievances with others from time to time.

And guess what ? That works in reverse also. Others will experience all of the above emotions towards us as well now and then. That brings us to this next point - what do we or better yet...what SHOULD we do when that happens ? Well, as in all areas of life, the Bible tells us exactly how to handle and navigate through any situation.

Matthew 18:15  says this - Moreover if thy brother shall trespass against thee , GO AND TELL HIM HIS FAULT BETWEEN THEE AND HIM ALONE  : if he shall hear thee, thou hast gained thy brother.

Have Christians always adhered to and followed this verse by handling conflicts with others in the proper manner ? No...of course not. It is not easy to tactfully and kindly confront another about a problem that exists between you and them. People have been incorrectly resolving conflicts for years. They either go to others to speak about the problem or ignore the situation entirely.

In the last decade however, the introduction of social media has caused a PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE HAYDAY  in relationships. This is something that everyone knows but rarely speaks about.

Are you upset with someone ? No problem.....make a cryptic, vague post - a public message that ALL will read, yet the person posting knows full well that they are conveying that message to just one specific person or to just one group of people.

Did you have a misunderstanding or incident with another ? Fear not....just hit the delete button or even more effective - simply block that individual....that essentially tells that person " I am so upset with you that you no longer exist to me. You are not even worth recognizing."  Yet all the while this person has not even talked face to face with the offending party in true hopes of reconciling or healing the relationship.

Can we all just be honest and state this sort of passive aggressive behavior for what it is ? It is cowardly. Social media today has provided the ultimate weapon to diss or shun someone without ever having to speak a word to that person.It is fertile ground for passive agressive types. In fact, it is the perfect ultimate  weapon. Women in particular are especially adept at this although both men and women participate in it.

Some who are unfamiliar with Facebook or all social media for that matter may shrug and say " Who cares ...social media isn't real life."  Is that really true though? Folks, social media is here to stay and in a very acute sense, it is a part of REAL , every day life. I  can safely say this because I have witnessed REAL relationships destroyed, or at least damaged by communication on social media when the two parties haven't even SPOKEN A WORD TO EACH OTHER IN PERSON. Facebook allows the perfect avenue for someone to communicate that you dislike someone or want to exclude someone without ever speaking even one word to that person face to face. 

Can I ask us all a question ? Does that please the Lord ?  Does God smile on our attempts to hurt or cause pain to others by clicking buttons while hiding behind a screen ? Where is our character , our integrity , our nobility when we do that ? These are all very real and pertinent questions that all of us , especially those of us who are Christians, need to ask ourselves. ...and then answer honestly.

Lastly - this blog was not born out of a problem or issue with anyone in particular. It was simply spawned by occasionally witnessing hurt, strife, and damage in general that occurs because of this very issue. That's it in a nutshell.

 Now, let's all ask ourselves -

WHEN I HAVE A PROBLEM WITH SOMEONE, DO I FOLLOW THE MATTHEW  18:15 PRINCIPLE ?

DO I HAVE THE CHARACTER TO GO TO ANOTHER FACE TO FACE IF THERE IS AN ISSUE BETWEEN US ?

DO I TRY TO COMMUNICATE IN CRYPTIC MESSAGES ?

DO I END RELATIONSHIPS IN MY LIFE THROUGH SOCIAL MEDIA WITHOUT TALKING FACE TO FACE ?

AM I HIDING BEHIND MY MOUSE AND MY I PHONE OR MY COMPUTER SCREEN ?

AND LAST BUT NOT LEAST......


IS GOD PLEASED WITH HOW I CONDUCT MYSELF ON SOCIAL MEDIA ?


Can we answer these important questions honestly ?
When we do, are we proud and pleased of our answers ?
Is God pleased as well ?
I hope so !

Something to think about !