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First Correction Then Affection

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, May 24, 2016, In : Lessons Learned 



  Are you a parent, a teacher, a coach ?
  Are you someone who has children in your care and under your authority ?
  If so, you understand well the frustration that those little lives can create within you.

  They can make you yell, scream, moan, and pull your hair out.
  Ideally, those are not the reactions that we strive for but is sometimes reality.

  Hopefully as the adults in kids' lives, we admonish, scold, correct, and punish in a calm and controlled manner.
  My question is, what next ...

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The Importance of Humor !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, May 18, 2016, In : Lessons Learned 



 Life is not a breeze.

 If we are all honest, we know that life can be downright difficult at times.
 Simply put, it can be -

 Challenging
 Aggravating
 Annoying
 Emotional

Hopefully this isn't what life is like for the majority of your time that you are conscious and functioning.

For those times that it is though....what one ingredient can HELP in a HUGE WAY ? What one element when interjected into the midst of quarrels, arguments, frowns, and tears ....can alleviate the pain and the angst ?  ...

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The Danger of Jumping to Conclusions

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, May 9, 2016, In : Lessons Learned 


If you are breathing right now, you have had the experience of someone jumping to a conclusion about you.

 If their conclusion was positive and favorable, then chances are you we're okay with that.
 If their conclusion was negative and inaccurate, chances are....not so much.

If I have learned anything in my almost 60 years of living, it is that we cannot possibly know what others are really thinking.
We may assume, we may suppose, we may arrive at conclusions about another's thoughts and motive...

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Are You Raising Resilient Kids ?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, June 3, 2015, In : Lessons Learned 
Building <b>Resilience</b> in <b>Kids</b> - (cool) progeny
Past blog entries of mine have touched on the topic of not over pampering our kids but I do not recall ever writing specifically on the subject of resiliency. Yet my fear is that it is something sorely lacking in parenting today and perhaps this blog is needed.

When my husband and I were raising our kids, we wanted to always stretch them. We wanted to push them. It didn't bother us really to see them in an uncomfortable situation or predicament and to see h...

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Don't Major on the Minor

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, April 20, 2015, In : Lessons Learned 


  As is often the case, I was in Target the other day and witnessed an incident that made me cringe just a tad. A little guy of about three years old was sitting in the child's seat of the cart and he reached over and grabbed a small item from that dollar section at the front of the store. The mom aggressively grabbed the item and angrily said " NO !" , slapped his hand and shoved the crayon pack back onto the shelf. The little guy immediately looked at me since I was so close to them and the...

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Two Most Important Ingredients for a Teacher - A Loving Spirit and a Great Sense of Humor

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, August 28, 2014, In : Lessons Learned 


 Having taught for many years I have lots of great memories of my time with eight year old third graders. When I recall my time with them I smile a whole lot more than I frown. I think that is because I was the mom of the four Hastings kids at the same time that I was " Mrs. Hastings" to other children in the classroom. Simply put, there wasn't a whole lot that my students were going to throw at me that my own kids hadn't hurled at me at home. I have always said that moms make the best teache...

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Parent with a "CAN DO" spirit :)

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, July 29, 2014, In : Lessons Learned 

 
    Are you loving this picture above ? I am ! As a sports lover, of course any kid lifting a trophy above his head in victory will make me smile. Parents everywhere live to see their own kids have moments like the little guy pictured here. The truth is however, these types of experiences don't happen by accident. No....victorious moments like this are prepared for - with a certain mindset. I like to call it " CAN DO " parenting.

  Lest you think this blog post is about sports, let me say up...

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STRETTTCCCHHHH YOUR CHILDREN :)

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, June 27, 2014, In : Lessons Learned 


 These last three weeks have given me hope for children and young parents. Why you ask ? Because I made the decision this year to teach swim lessons ....the old school way.... and I have been pleasantly surprised. For the past five years or so I have observed swim lessons being taught in public rec centers and clubs. After eight weeks of lessons and after paying out about 500 bucks, parents were watching their kiddos still blowing bubbles and holding on the edge and kicking their feet. I rare...

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Time is a Blur !!!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, May 21, 2014, In : Lessons Learned 


 When I look at the picture above , I feel that it describes my life perfectly. We have all heard the expression " time flies". In the last fifteen years or so, a better description would be "time is a blur."  I am watching my former third graders graduate high school, graduate college and even more incredible, becoming parents. Ouch ...yes, I am old !

If I could stand on a mountain top and shout the most important message to the younger generation , it would be this - DISCOVER AND UNDERSTAND ...

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Please Toughen Up Parents :)

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, April 29, 2014, In : Lessons Learned 
                                                                                 
    I had a conversation today that I won't soon forget. I was talking to a mom of a seventeen year old girl. She was complaining to me that her daughter was turning eighteen years old soon but refused to get a job. I said to this mom...." Does your daughter have her driver's license ?" She replied " Oh yes, she has been driving for a year now." I said " Is it your car that she drives ?" She said " Yes". I said ...

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Disagreeing with Kindness

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, September 24, 2013, In : Lessons Learned 


All of us experience something almost every day of our lives. We disagree with someone over an issue. The trick is after we are finished with our disagreement, are we still friends ? Do we still like each other? Is there still respect in the relationship ?

The answer to those three questions above should be a resounding YES !

Sadly however, that is not always the case.

If you are like me, you feel passionate about many things. Your faith, your family, your convictions, your politics are all ar...

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Follow That Inner Voice

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, September 5, 2013, In : Lessons Learned 

                                                                        

 

 
 When was the last time that you had a thought, an intuition, an inkling to do something for someone to encourage them....but then you didn't follow through ? If we are honest, all hands should be shooting in the air right now. I think we all have been there.

A friend is sick and we think about sending them a card, or making a meal and surprising them with it. But we don't.

Someone we know seems a bit lonely and isolated...

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Something That Some Folks are Addicted To

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, September 3, 2013, In : Lessons Learned 

 Yesterday I realized an important truth. Some people are simply addicted to drama. They are just not quite content unless some sort of strife or contention is taking place either in their lives or in those around them. Because of this, they are usually the ones who are stirring up the trouble. I used to think that these types of individuals just simply need to mature, or learn how to navigate through relationships in a more peaceable way, but now I am seriously wondering if this " draw to dr...

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One of the Worst Things You can do to Your Children !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, August 1, 2013, In : Lessons Learned 
 
Yes, you are seeing the picture right. There are training wheels on the tricycle above. Never mind the fact that it is almost virtually impossible for a kid on a tricycle to flip over. Parents can just never be too careful these days....or can they ? Folks, I realize that I am a senior citizen now and therefore am past the child bearing and child rearing years - Praise God :) I am not too old however to remember those days when our home was full of kiddos and I have noticed one HUGE crucial ...

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Attention all Moms and Grandmoms - Don't Lose Yourself in Your Love for Those Kids and Grandkids !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, July 23, 2013, In : Lessons Learned 

 It is a great thing to always be learning new lessons in life. One great lesson that God has been teaching me lately is to not lose myself in the midst of loving those who mean the most to me. I know that both the title and the first couple sentences of this blog entry may seem strange. After all, as moms and grandmas, aren't our families supposed to be all important to us...next to our faith in God that is ? Well....yes, as long as we remember to value ourselves in the process.

My husband a...

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Am I Really Surprised at Bill Maher's Use of This Word ?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, June 20, 2013, In : Lessons Learned 


 A video clip caught my attention today. It was about the use of the term "retard" and how BIll Maher recently used this word in reference to Sarah Palin's youngest child. I had two reactions to this news ; appalled but not surprised when one considers the source. Bill Maher is not known for his class or for his awareness of what is important in life. However , it is not just this infamous individual who uses this expression. I have noticed a resurgence of this word in recent years and that i...

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Tim Duncan - Class on the Court

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, June 19, 2013, In : Lessons Learned 

 As was expected, today there is much talk about the sixth game of the series of the NBA finals that was played last night between the Spurs and the Heat. Everyone has their own opinions about the officiating which was questionable at best, however that is not the topic of the blog today. Instead, I just had to write about one specific player. His name is Tim Duncan and let's just be honest ; this guy is a breath of fresh air.

He is a thirty-seven year old veteran of the game, one of the best...

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Um...No thank you - I Am the Grandparent...So I WIll Opt Out of the Prenatal Classes !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, June 18, 2013, In : Lessons Learned 


 I was stunned when I heard that Pre-natal classes are now being offered for grandparents. Just four words came screaming into my mind when I heard that - BEEN THERE DONE THAT !  Don't get me wrong, I LOVE being with our grandbabies. They are my love and my joy and the same is true with my husband but make no mistake about it, I just don't want to be doing the pre-natal thing all over again. Maybe it is because something like having to go to a class lends itself to the idea that I am going to...

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Are You Grown Up ? Take the Test :)

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, June 14, 2012, In : Lessons Learned 

 
   "You grow up the day that you have your first real laugh at yourself" - Ethel Barrymore

This quote gave me more than pause the other day ; it actually stopped me dead in my tracks.  It is because it is true. How many little tykes or young children have you observed laughing along with others when they have been the object or target of a joke or teasing? Not many. Once youngsters sense that others are getting a laugh at their expense usually the tears begin to flow, understandably so. 

When ...

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Time to Write Again :)

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, June 13, 2012, In : Lessons Learned 
 
 I am about to embark on another writing adventure and am not quite sure if it is because I am a glutton for punishment or perhaps it is just therapeutic for me. Three years ago our youngest son Matty gave me a blog for Mother's Day. I was thrilled with it except for one aspect about it - he named it the Pam Hastings Daily Blog. The sticking point being of course that word that all writers fear and dread which is " daily." Feeling a need to meet the challenge I enthusiastically set about wri...
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Honest Abe...Where are Ya?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, March 30, 2011, In : Lessons Learned 

    "You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong. You cannot help the wage earner by pulling down the wage payer. You cannot help the poor by destroying the rich. You cannot help men permanently by doing for them what they could and should do for themselves."
Abraham Lincoln

 

I love Abraham Lincoln for many reasons. He was one of our founding fathers and earl...


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She Chose Happiness not Bitterness

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, September 10, 2010, In : Lessons Learned 

 This past week in the news a heartwarming story grabbed my attention. It involved a nurse who was standing at the nurse’s station at the hospital where she works when she heard the doctor mention the name of the most recent patient that was being admitted to the hospital. When interviewed, she said that she heard the name “Victor Peraza” spoken out loud and her heart almost stopped. She stood frozen as this new patient, this Mr. Peraza was wheeled by her and into his room. The reason f...


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Habits

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, September 7, 2010, In : Lessons Learned 

I have been thinking a lot lately about habits. We are all familiar with the age old saying that human beings are creatures of habit to which I heartily agree. The interesting catch here is that habits can be both good and bad... can they not?  We can have a habit of always wheeling the grocery store cart back to the rightful place in the parking lot…the area specially designated for returning carts or we can have a habit of pushing that same cart a few feet away from our car before we hop ...


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The Prating Fool...Avoid Him if You Can !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, June 3, 2010, In : Lessons Learned 

“ He who doesn’t have legs cannot teach one how to walk.” – Unknown

 

 The other day I had an interesting experience. I witnessed a conversation in which someone who has never been a parent was giving instructions to a seasoned parent on how to parent their teenager. The only reason that I was not completely irked was because I was more amused. It was one of those situations in life where you say “ I would have been really mad if it wasn’t just so awfully funny !”

 

To...


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The Best Way For a Man to Train up a Child in the Way that He Should Go is to Travel that Way Himself.

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, May 19, 2010, In : Lessons Learned 

“ The best way for a man to train up a child in the way that he should go is to travel that way himself.” – source unknown


Too bad the individual who penned this particular quote is not known. I say that because he or she was right on the mark. The problem is that even though all of us parents know the complete truth of setting the right examples in life, it is still just so stinkin’ hard to do sometimes isn’t it?


For example, I have never been known to be what is referred to as a...


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It is the Little Things That Count !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, April 26, 2010, In : Lessons Learned 

“Everyone is trying to accomplish something big, not realizing that life is made up of little things.” -  Frank A. Clark

 

One of the toughest lessons to learn in life is that it is basically a routine. It is simply made up of little things is it not? We get up, make the bed, get dressed , go to our jobs, pay the bills, maintain the house, care for the kids, eat dinner, spend time with our spouse or friends, and go to bed to pretty much do the same thing all over again the next morning....


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Hard Words Do Not Equal Understanding of Hard Things

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, February 24, 2010, In : Lessons Learned 

“ A Man Thinks That By Mouthing Hard Words, He Understands Hard Things” -  Herman Melville


Have you ever noticed how some of the harshest words seem to be uttered by very simple people? What I mean by simple is unwise, unstable, and extreme. Whether these words be stark profanity or vulgar slang or just coarse, rough language in general, more often that not, the folks speaking them are not known for their prudence or wisdom.


When I was young I used to mistake passion for being right. This c...


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Does the Eye Want to See It?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, February 18, 2010, In : Lessons Learned 

“ If the eye does not want to see, neither light nor glasses will help” – German proverb


   Let’s just be honest; the above quote packs a mighty powerful punch. Lots of wisdom and truth in this German saying. Although it specifically talks about the eye, it is really dealing with the broader issue of every man’s heart and spirit. The crux of the issue is that until someone really desires to change something about themselves or in their own life, progress or change rarely happens.


 Tak...


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Thunder and Lightning

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, February 16, 2010, In : Lessons Learned 

“It is better to have less thunder in the mouth and more lightning in the hand” – Apache

 

  There exists many wise sayings by native Americans and this is certainly one of them.  We have similar clichés that we are more familiar with but basically mean the same thing- “Actions speak louder than words”, and “Practice what you preach” and “Walk the talk” to name just a few. Somehow though, I prefer the Apache quote over the rest.


Perhaps it is because the phrase “thunder ...


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A Friend Who Nods and A Friend Who Stands

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, February 12, 2010, In : Lessons Learned 

" I don’t need a friend who changes when I change and who nods when I nod; my shadow does that much better” – Plutarch

 Friendship is a great but tricky thing. It is often sought after but perhaps not enjoyed by a lot of folks. How many pairs of people have you known who were once great friends but no longer are?  Scores of folks find themselves in this category, myse...


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KEEP IT CONCISE !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, February 9, 2010, In : Lessons Learned 

Quote –  “ If you would be pungent, be brief ; for it is with words as with sunbeams. The more they are condensed, the deeper they burn. “   -  Robert Southey


 
Today is the day that I return to writing my blog that was actually first presented to me as a Mother’s Day gift last May by my son Matty. I began writing right away which produced roughly sixty blog entries from Last May through the early part of last November. I consider those six months to be my trial run , a time period in...


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" The Size Of A Man Is Known By The Size Of The Thing That Makes Him Angry."

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, November 2, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

Two of my favorite quotes about anger are as follows…

 

“ The size of a man is known by the size of the thing that makes him angry.”

 

“ The best answer to anger is silence.”

How often do we get seriously angry at trivial things in life?  For me it is way too often. I can get very upset and all churned up over a person driving way too slowly in front of me. I will mutter something unkind under my breath, get extremely frustrated,  and display a scowl on my face. All because s...


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Do You Respond Thoughtfully or React Impulsively?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, October 28, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

Many years ago when our boys were very little, about three, six, and nine years old, I was pulling into a Walmart parking lot to do some shopping. We lived in Jacksonville, North Carolina as my husband was in the Marine Corps and we were stationed at Camp LeJeune. On this particular day, as I turned into our parking spot,  an incident occurred that has gone down in the family record books as “ Don’t Litter In Front of Mom”

T
his incident is a classic example of behaving on impulse and I d...


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Are You Attempting Something Great? Be Prepared To Be Misunderstood!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, October 26, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

                         “ TO BE GREAT IS TO BE MISUNDERSTOOD.”  - Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Being great in this world is not easily achieved nor is it easily understood. People who achieve great things stand out, are noticed, and often become well known for their accomplishments. Success invites attention and scrutiny for which the accomplished must be prepared for and willing to endure.

Those who are deemed “great” tend to think outside the box, are frequently ahead of the times and...


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Little Ben Reminds His Mimi Of An Important Truth About Listening!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, October 20, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

This morning I went to visit someone who was really glad to see me so that is always a great feeling. My daughter in law Stephanie called and invited me to come over and spend some time this morning with her and our grandson Ben who is fourteen months old. That is the sort of invite that you will never see me turn down….time with the grandbabies… so off I went. As I was walking up the front walk he had a big smile on his face and reached out to me when Steph opened the door and at that mo...


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Love Most Definitely Means Having To Say You're Sorry !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, October 13, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

If you are as old as I am ( a little over five decades) you may well remember the movie “ Love Story”  about a young married couple. The young wife is diagnosed with cancer and the basic plot of the movie is how this young couple navigates through this difficult journey from diagnosis until her death. The young wife was played by Ali McGraw and Ryan O’Neal played the part of the young husband. It was most certainly a tear jerker for that time and perhaps the signature line of the movie ...


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Are You Sailing Peacefully Or Paddling Furiously?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, October 5, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

Are you a person who sometimes has a hard time regrouping and collecting yourself once you have been upset about something? I certainly am! There can be an incident or a conversation or a reaction from someone else that so startles me, so stuns me, that I have a hard time letting it go. Not only can I not let it go immediately but I sometimes struggle with it for twenty-four hours afterwards. Not a prescription for peace and tranquility, is it?

 

Perhaps you can relate but maybe you cannot a...


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Trent's Phone Call Rings Loud and Clear...and Reveals A Truth!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, September 30, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

 My phone rang yesterday and the voice that I heard on the other end squealed “ Hi Mimi!” My heart immediately began to melt, my frown turned to a smile and I replied “ Hi Trent!”  All of a sudden, my day was made. My little grandson was calling me and that made the world a better place to be in. He then said “ Mimi, do you know what a fundwaiser is?” ( yes, I know I spelled it wrong, but that is how he pronounces his r’s) I immediately started laughing because I knew what was c...


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A Small Boy Teaches A Huge Lesson About the Meaning of Unselfishness!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, September 29, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

 I taught third grade for many years and every year I had a reward system in place for students who had earned enough “tickets” to go to what I called the “Class Store.” The class store was comprised of all sorts of toys and treats that would appeal to any third grader. There were model cars and airplanes, footballs, frizbees, jump ropes, and jacks as well as smaller items such as colored pencils, stickers, glitter, and just a wide variety of items that third graders love.

 

Each Fri...


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Life is Too Short...Forgive and Hold Tight To Those Whom You Love!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, September 25, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

 When you unexpectedly lose someone whom you love, it hurts. I am specifically talking about losing someone through death. I lost my wonderful, devoted mom when I was just nineteen years old. One day she was vibrant, active, and full of life and the next day she was gone. She had an aneurism in her brain that neither she nor any of us knew about and it took her away from us one night. It is the reason that the medical community sometimes refers to aneurisms as “silent killers.”

 

My mom w...


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Some High School Football Players Learn One Of Life's Greatest Lessons!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, September 23, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

 

Two days ago I saw a story on the news that gave me pause and also put a smile on my face. It was about a high school football game in which one of the teams had a player with down syndrome on their team. That fact right away warmed my heart. Here was a regular public high school who had put a special needs student on their team as one of the regular players on the roster.

 

The game had only a little more than a minute left on the clock and the team with the boy with down syndrome was los...


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Let's Fight The Battle Of Cynicism!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, September 17, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

For those of you who faithfully read the blog, you may have noticed that some of the articles focus on what is in the news. Like many Americans, I care very much about our country, our culture and what direction it is headed in and because of that I suppose I would have to plead guilty to being a news junkie. The down side of that is that one can easily become a cynic very quickly. I often find myself getting scared, frustrated and angry about what I observe occurring in today’s world. The ...


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Parents- RELEVANCY Is The Key !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, September 16, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

In yesterday’s blog I spoke about the recent incident in which Kanye West was extremely rude to Taylor Swift at the VMA awards. In another recent post I also spoke about Facebook and many different aspects concerning that social networking site. I have received a few e-mails from parents expressing that they are very unaware of how Facebook works and I also had a parent comment to me that they are unaffected by anything that takes place on an entertainment awards show as they never watch su...


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What is a "True Friend" and How Many Do You Have?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, July 27, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

        I am almost finished reading Bill O’Reilly’s book entitled “A Bold Fresh Piece of Humanity.” For the most part, it has been an informative and entertaining read with the exception of the fact that O’Reilly is a guy who is quite stuck on himself. For almost two thirds of the book, he refers to himself in the third person which is always an immediate red flag that the person in question is a bit too impressed with himself. O’Reilly does however make a statement in the book w...


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Be Your Child's Biggest Cheerleader!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, July 23, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

        This week I have read with interest but have not been surprised at the L.A. Galaxy/David Beckham spectacle. In a recent soccer game Beckham was jeered and chided by fans which is not all that unusual except for the fact that they were not fans for the opposing team. No, they were fans of the Galaxy, the team that Beckham is a member of. To sum it up, the David Beckham experiment has basically failed and the love affair between him and American fans has all but fizzled.

 

        Just...


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The Self Life Is Not the Happy Life!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, July 21, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

         I recently read a predictable but much overdone slogan which really is not all that original…it said “Dare to Be Yourself!”  I was fairly startled to say the least because to me it seems like that is precisely what most folks occupy their time with these days. A good portion of our society does nothing but live for self. People are simply consumed with self much of the time, so the thought that one should need to dare to be one’s self is a rather puzzling thought to me.

 

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Nicole Perseveres and the Beetle Lives On!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, July 16, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

         This week my husband and I have had our two oldest grandkids visiting with us all week long. Our son and daughter-in-law are on a trip and so we get to enjoy being pop and mimi full time and we are loving it. The pool out back has been a big hit as well as a jaunt to Chuckie Cheese, some local playgrounds and of course the nearest Dairy Queen. All of it has been tremendous fun, but one particular incident will stand out in my mind for a long time. It will go down in the family record...


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Question: What Were the Last Regretful Words That spewed Out of Your Mouth?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, July 15, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

         I was browsing the internet last night and stumbled upon a question that gave me some pause. It truly made me stop and think. The question was “ What were the last regretful words that spewed out of your mouth?” A fairly direct question , isn’t it? It is also one that every living, breathing soul can answer. The reason we all can relate to this is because we are human, and human beings are emotional. Usually when we say something that we regret, the words were motivated by anot...


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"He is like my second son" - A Story of Forgiveness

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, July 8, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

         I recently watched a talk show that centered on the topic of forgiveness. It featured a story that had such a profound impact on me, that I will not soon forget it. The guests on the show were a father, his twenty-two year old son and another young man, who was twenty-four years of age who was no relation to the father and son. He was however, their very good friend…and also the man responsible for killing the wife and mother of the father and son who were seated next to him.

 

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Refuse to Label!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, July 7, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

         In our front yard is a tree that can only be described as evil. Yes, that’s right…our family has named it the evil tree and we have called it that for years. It’s nickname is “E.T.” . This tree deserves its title as it is like no other tree that I have ever seen. It is unsightly, it does not grow properly, and it serves no useful purpose. I am probably offending all the environmentalists right now, but truthfully, I do not know of one earth loving, green person who would be...


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Rigidity and Flexibility- Your Child Needs Both!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, July 6, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

         As I have mentioned in previous blogs, my husband and I put in a swimming pool in our back yard this past spring. It is beautiful and our whole family is enjoying it tremendously but there is one feature that we are a bit disappointed in which is the diving board. I knew that the board would be a very basic small board however I was not prepared for the rigidity of it. It just simply does not have a lot of spring. When my almost thirty year old son tried to bounce off of it this past...


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" Procrastination Station "

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, July 3, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

 

        When all of our kids were growing up, they all had various school projects. Usually, the huge projects were assigned in the beginning of the school year and were not due until sometime in the early spring around mid March. Science projects in our house were the most dreaded of all school endeavors. Not only was there a typed paper to be handed in, but also a journal or log that must be kept along with the cleverly decorated science board complete with labels, graphs and more written...


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Humor...A Powerful Tool!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, June 22, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

 

Very recently, I was in a conversation with two other people which could have culminated in a bad way but instead, the outcome was a productive one. One of the other people in the conversation was a teenager and the third was an adult and an authority figure in that young person’s life. As the conversation progressed , it was evident that this teen was becoming somewhat tense and perhaps a bit upset with the direction that the discussion was going. When this became apparent to the other a...


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A Sorrowful Word...Regret!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, June 18, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

         There are many lessons that I have not learned well or easily in my life to date but there is one that I have known the importance of even as a child. It is the lesson that our actions today can surely cause us to have deep regret later on in our life. This truth was evidenced so clearly in an article that I read yesterday about a young teenaged girl who decided to have three stars tattooed on her face. Something went terribly wrong however, and when the whole procedure was complete,...


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Think Before You Laugh!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, June 11, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

Recently I read a quote that arrested me. It is profound and carries so much wisdom. The quote is:

 

“Nothing shows a man’s character more than what he laughs at”

                                  Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe 

 

        I simply sat and pondered the absolute truth of that statement. Laughter is a good and wonderful thing as we have all heard several quips and clichés concerning laughing. Statements such as “laughter is good for the soul” and “laughter is the best ...


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Combating Anonymity

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, June 8, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

Every so often we have a visitor who comes to our front door , rings the doorbell and has some questions for us to answer. If you live in the Washington area , you have most likely had the same experience. The person on the porch is a government investigator who is doing a background check on a neighbor who lives close by, most likely on your very street. The person who is being investigated or inquired about is not in any sort of trouble but he or she is applying for a job with a government ...


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Strike the Right Balance

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, June 3, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

                 For eleven years I taught third grade in a local private elementary school. I have specific recollections of countless incidents and of some very memorable students. One particular little boy stands out in my mind. His name was Cory (not his actual name) and he was an extremely bright little fellow, so bright in fact that he had his parents, his grandparents and even some former teachers completely snowed to put it bluntly. Whenever he did not want to do something that was re...


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A Sharp Contrast

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, June 1, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

This is the time of year for graduations. I realize that there are all levels of graduations these days as we celebrate graduations at many different levels; there are preschool, kindergarten,  middle school, high school, college, and post college level graduations. Perhaps since my youngest child graduated from high school this year, my mind has naturally been most focused on high school graduates. I just seem to be noticing the graduating high school seniors in the community more this year ...


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Where in the World is the Scoreboard?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, May 27, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

      I think it was about seven or eight years ago that one of my friends, a young mom of two little league participants, invited me to attend one of her son’s baseball games. My daughter who was ten years old at the time, was a friend of her son who was playing in the game, and she wanted to go as well, so off we went to watch our first little league game in several years as my boys were at the tail end of high school and in college at this point. When we arrived at the field, my friend w...


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Disobedience + Defiance + Deception does NOT = Devastation

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, May 20, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

 Have you ever noticed how so many of  the behavior related words in the English language begin with the letter “D” ?  There are several. However, today I want to focus on just three of them…disobedience, defiance, and deception. I suppose that I am one of those rare folks that loves words, but also loves Math. I used to love solving equations and was especially delighted as a kid to reach that point in a problem in which I had arrived at the correct answer that belonged on the other si...


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A Soft Answer Teaches a Loud Lesson

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, May 19, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

Sometimes I write about subjects in which I feel that I as an individual or that our family as a whole has done a fairly good job.  For example, yesterday I wrote about family loyalty , an area where we have not struggled as individuals and so it was easy and pain free to write about it. Not so my friend, with today’s subject….a soft answer. This one is going to be flatout painful. Why? Because I am horrible at it. Rarely do I give a soft answer and it is something that I pray about all t...


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"Wilson" is the Star !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, May 15, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 

       Since I began yesterday's entry by mentioning a movie, I did not want to begin writing about another movie today however I must. Last night as I was randomly surfing the channels with the remote, I came across the movie Castaway that was being shown on T.V. for about the one thousandth time. It has been shown so often that as soon as I stumbled upon it, I immediately began to click to something else until that is ....I saw Wilson. Wilson is my favorite actor of that movie ....to me, he...


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Overscheduled Boys

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, May 12, 2009, In : Lessons Learned 
We've all either seen them or been there ourselves...the frazzled mom who is hustling 11 yr old Johnny out of the car to the soccer field for practice. Laying on the back seat as he hops out is his clarinet case from his music lesson that he just came from and his sketch pad that he used in his Art lesson that took place an hour before clarinet practice. Johnny seems a bit dazed as he reaches back for his soccer ball almost as if he is attempting to remember which activity he just wrapped up ...
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