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Parents - You Know Your Child Better Than Anyone !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, May 4, 2016, In : Family 

   

 Parents - May I ask you a question ?

 Who do your children live with ?

  For most moms and dads out there, I think the answer for most of you will be that your kiddos live with either their mom, their dad, or both parents. So let me ask you something....who knows your children more intimately than anyone knows them ?  

 The answer is the person that you see in the mirror.

 While this might seem like an obvious conclusion to all of us I sometimes wonder if it is. Why do I say that ? Becau...

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Common Sense Rules to Follow for the Grandparent - Grandchild Relationship to be a Fun and Healthy One :)

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, June 24, 2013, In : Family 

 
     I answer to a lot of different names...."Mom", "Pam", "Hey You" and other names by other drivers for example that I won't mention here...(ha). One name that I love to be called though is " Mimi " because those calling me that are my grand babies. Grand parenting can be a really wonderful experience - however like all great things in this life, if we are careless and or unwise, something that is great and wonderful can easily morph into an unpleasant experience. After being in this grand...

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Never Have Children, Only Grandchildren !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, June 9, 2010, In : Family 

“Never have children, only grandchildren” – Gore Vidal

 

This quote gave me a chuckle this morning. Ain’t it the truth? After just having our six year old grandson stay with us for the last four days, I agree whole heartedly with the wisdom of Gore Vidal.

 

Having fun and a great time is the common mission when my husband and I are with the grandkids. We don’t have to be the bad guy. We did our time as parents and that sentence is finished with…ha ha. Now the icing on the cake...


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Mothers and Daughters...

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, March 15, 2010, In : Family 

 “ Mothers and daughters are closest when daughters become mothers.” – author unknown


This quote may be unclaimed but is certainly not unwise. I never truly understood my mom until I became one myself. The only sad part about that for me is that when I was now “mom”, my own mother was no longer alive. I lost her as a teenager but have not forgotten her love, her sacrifice, her expressions, the smell of her shampoo on her hair when I hugged her and her many phrases and admonitions tha...


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Moms...Don't Try To Be Your Child's BFF !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, March 10, 2010, In : Family 

“ Moms need to learn that their child does not want or need them to be their BFF.” – Pam Hastings


For the first time ever in my blog , my quote is one of my own. I certainly do not claim to be an expert on parenting but I do know one thing for certain…which is that I never cared one iota if my kids considered me to be their friend while they were growing up. It just didn’t matter. What did matter very much however is that I was their Mom…with a capital “M”. What that meant was ...


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Empty Puppy House Syndrome

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, March 1, 2010, In : Family 

“To his dog, every man is Napolean; hence the constant popularity of dogs.” – Aldous Huxley

 

“ There is no psychiatrist in the world like a puppy licking your face.” – Ben Williams


“ If a dog will not come to you after having looked you in the face, you should go home and examine your conscience.” – Woodrow Wilson


The three quotes above all point to the same thought which is that humans are dog lovers. Let’s face it…we love the critters. Last May one of the very first ...


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Moms...Foster Closeness In Your Children

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, October 19, 2009, In : Family 

One desire that I have always had is for my children to be close to one another…for their whole lives. I suppose every parent has this desire but over the years of parenting , I have learned that moms are hugely influential in seeing this goal to be accomplished or never realized.

There are several different ways that moms can foster closeness and loyalty between her children but I am going to just zero in on a specific one today which is the practice of minimizing critcism and maximizing p...


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I Am A Grateful And Blessed Mom!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, October 8, 2009, In : Family 

 Daughters are such fun creatures…let me explain why. Our daughter who is a freshman in college is on the other side of the country in California. My husband and I send her cute little cards letting her know how much she is loved and missed. What she especially likes about this practice is that we occasionally slip a twenty dollar bill inside. That little green piece of paper is just a nice surprise that makes life a bit easier for her and she appreciates it.

 

What is so nice and differen...


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" TRENT "

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, September 25, 2009, In : Family 

 This coming Saturday my husband and I are going to have a particularly fun and joyful day. We are taking our five year old grandson Trent, to his very first soccer game. This little guy is quite simply one of the treasures of our lives. There are only three perfect people in the world, soon to be four this coming March and they are quite obviously the precious grandbabies of the obnoxious woman writing this blog right now! Ha.

 

Trent is our very first grandchild and he lights up my life ! ...


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Your Children Will Never Love You Like You Love Them

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, September 18, 2009, In : Family 

Many years ago my pastor made a statement in a sermon that I have never forgotten and it has served me well over the years. He said “Parents, your children will never love you the way that you love them!” He did not say that our children will not love us at all, he did not say that our children will grow up and not be appreciative of us…he simply said that they will never love us in the same way as we love them. I think what he meant by that was that they will never possess a love that ...


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Selling Our Kids Short...Let's Strive To Not Do So!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, September 10, 2009, In : Family 

As many of you know, we just dropped off our daughter in California as she is a freshman at a small Christian college out there. She called a few days ago and informed us that she signed up to play on a women’s intramural soccer team. When she told me that, I had one response…I said “excuse me?”. The reason for a reply like that from me is that my daughter played on only two soccer teams growing up and uh…um…well, they were both memorable experiences.

 

The first team that she was...


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What Place In Your Heart Does Your Teenager Hold?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, September 9, 2009, In : Family 

 We all know how influential friendships can be. It is a proven fact that those that we keep company with have the potential of having an enormous amount of influence over us. This is precisely why clichés such as “You are known by the company that you keep” and “Show me your friends and I will show you your future” have become such well known and prominent warnings.

 

At no time is this truth more evident than during the tumultuous teen years. All people everywhere have a desire to ...


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A New Chapter... You Go Girl, Your Mom Is Rooting For You!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, September 4, 2009, In : Family 

    Today I wake up to a more quiet, empty home. I don’t hear Gospel or old jazz tunes ringing out from her pink walled bathroom upstairs. I realized that I didn’t have to bang on the wall downstairs to remind her that a 30 minute shower is a bit too long. I can’t hear her singing in her room nor am I locking horns with her in yet another one of our many mom-daughter “discussions”. The “her” that I refer to surrounds my gorgeous, fun loving daughter Kasey. Yesterday we arrived b...


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Heather, Stephanie, and Lindsay- Three Answers to Prayer!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Tuesday, June 30, 2009, In : Family 

 

        When anyone first clicks on my blog, there is a picture right there on the home page staring right at the viewer. It is shot of our family that we took this past Thanksgiving right before we carved the turkey. Several readers who have learned about our sons and their antics in the articles but do not know our family personally have subscribed to the blog and have inquired through e-mail as to which son is which in the picture. To clear up any confusion, the son on the far left is Ma...


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Dad's Day is Almost Here...Let Him Know How You Feel !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, June 19, 2009, In : Family 

         In two more days it is Father’s Day and my mind usually reminisces about my dad and what a blessed person I have always been to have been given the dad that I was given by our wonderful God. Today however, I am not writing about him but am thinking of four other people who could claim the same blessing and they are my four children.

 

        My husband has been a fabulous father and each of our kids would be the first to echo that statement. They will always have memories of a da...


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Parents...Go the Distance!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, June 12, 2009, In : Family 

        As I have stated in earlier blogs, our youngest and only daughter graduated from high school this year. She will be leaving for college in the fall and so much of my husband’s and my focus quite naturally has been focused on her making this all important transition in her life. She will be living away from home for the first time for an extended period of time and learning to be on her own in several ways. Many of our friends have children the same age and are going through the same...


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The Blessing of Being "Pop and Mimi"!

Posted by Pam Hastings on Wednesday, June 10, 2009, In : Family 

 All of my life I had heard about the joys of the grandchild/grandparent relationship. As a youngster, most of my little friends in the neighborhood were always taking off for extended visits with their grandpas and grandmas and I remember feeling insanely jealous of them. The reason for this is that I never knew any of my four grandparents. They all had passed away when I was still a child and the ones that were still living in my earliest years lived so far away that I honestly do not remem...


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Getting Your Teen to Talk to You

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, May 29, 2009, In : Family 

How many of you parents have ever had this experience? You pick your teen up from school or if he or she drives to school, when they get home, they walk in the door and you say to them “How was school today?” and that teen of yours mumbles back “fine”. You then inquire “What happened at school today?” and you get the next routine response “nothing.” I think if we are honest all parents could be raising their hands right now. As I have stated in an earlier blog, I in no way cl...


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Today I am Thinking About my Dad in Stalag #3

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, May 25, 2009, In : Family 

Today is Memorial Day and I am thinking of all who have given their lives for our freedom . I am also thinking about those who did not die in battle but fought bravely for our country over the years. One of those people was my dad. His name was Kenneth Charles Simpson and he was the biggest and bravest man that I knew when I was growing up. Many a daughter could make the same claim about their father and there is something very wonderful when a girl can and does feel that way. I have so many ...


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Let Them Spread Their Wings

Posted by Pam Hastings on Sunday, May 24, 2009, In : Family 

  We have all heard the expression or the phrase “spread your wings”. It has been used or applied to a variety of situations and circumstances and we may even remember saying it to a friend or most likely to our children a time or two. My last blog entry was about our daughter Kasey graduating from high school this past Friday evening . It was a fabulous , wonderful evening , one that causes a parent to reflect on so many memories that make me smile and cry at the same time. Graduations a...


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I Love You Kasey !

Posted by Pam Hastings on Friday, May 22, 2009, In : Family 

  

       Each of us have days in our lives that mark significant milestones. Today is one of those days for me . Our youngest child and only daughter graduates from high school this evening and I cannot lie…I am not doing well with it.  Simply put, it is a bitter sweet time as my husband and I are very excited for her and for what lies ahead in her future but she is after all, our baby girl. After the three boys, she has been a whirlwind of baby dolls, dressing up, giggles, shopping, fashi...


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Family Loyalty- Friend or Foe ?

Posted by Pam Hastings on Monday, May 18, 2009, In : Family 

                                          

 

  Loyalty is defined  in the dictionary as faithfulness or devotion to a person or cause.  Each one of us possesses and exhibits loyalty to different people,  to different organizations or institutions and indeed to various movements or causes. Loyalty can also be motivated by both negative and positive agendas. For example , some of our young people today are extremely loyal to a gang. Others are devoted and loyal to their school’s sports teams...


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