It Matters Who You Surround Yourself With !

September 7, 2016

Every time that I watch or hear Mike Pence speak I sigh. I can't help it....I sigh because I wish he was our Presidential nominee instead of Trump. I know that is futile and wishful thinking but please just humor me and let me pretend. The truth is that I am not the only who feels this way. Pence is a humble, kind, mature, charactered, classy family man who is a true believer in Christ. In other words, pretty much everything that Donald Trump is not. However, if we cannot have Pence as the President, what is the next best thing ? Why, having him as vice president of course. 

If we ever needed a classic example of the power of our choice of peers, Mike Pence is it. 

Donald Trump hasn't always made the best choices, but he hit the jackpot with his choice of Pence.

Here is a guy who is authentic, real, knowledgeable, polished and yet also is willing to take the back seat and shine the light on Trump he should as the VP candidate. By choosing Pence, Trump gave hope to many like myself who fear and detest Trump to a certain degree. For me, it made me feel just a tad less nervous. I thought to myself, " Okay, Trump is pretty much a narcissistic, arrogant, loose cannon but at least he must recognize that about himself because he just chose a running mate who is anything but that. It boosted my confidence. It reduced my uneasiness. In short, Trump's choice of Pence helped me ...immensely. 

And I am not alone. 

Scores of folks all over this country breathed a sigh of relief in this wise choice. 

There is a lesson to be learned here. What is it? IT MATTERS WHO WE SURROUND OURSELVES WITH !

Trump and Pence are on the news every day, they are famous , they are glaring examples of this truth. Our lives are not and are much more obscure but the same principle rings true. Just as Trump greatly helped himself with his choice of Pence, we can greatly help our own lives with our choices of associates, friends, companions. Granted, we are not running for president, but our lives are no less important when it comes to living a life of happiness, fulfillment, and purpose. 

It took me several years into my adulthood to learn this lesson but I finally grew to where I understood the importance of who I surround myself with in my life. It became clearly evident to me as I aged, that when my friends were kind, honest, authentic, Godly, loving people ....that those qualities just naturally began to wash over me and help me to be the same. However. the converse is also true....when I surrounded myself with negative, petty, bitter, dissatisfied folks, I found myself fighting to be content and at rest within my heart and my head. 

Big difference in my attitude, my outlook, my thought life depending on who I spent my time with. 

How about you ? Have you also discovered this important truth ? 

Most have, they just have not made the changes necessary in terms of changing who they hang with. 

Here are some " E's " to remember -

Endeavor to surround yourself with the right kind of people.
Encourage yourself by who you choose for friends
Enrich your life by following the two sentences above. 

You won't regret it if you do !


First Correction Then Affection

May 24, 2016

  Are you a parent, a teacher, a coach ?
  Are you someone who has children in your care and under your authority ?
  If so, you understand well the frustration that those little lives can create within you.

  They can make you yell, scream, moan, and pull your hair out.
  Ideally, those are not the reactions that we strive for but is sometimes reality.

  Hopefully as the adults in kids' lives, we admonish, scold, correct, and punish in a calm and controlled manner.
  My question is, what next ...

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The Importance of Humor !

May 18, 2016

 Life is not a breeze.

 If we are all honest, we know that life can be downright difficult at times.
 Simply put, it can be -


Hopefully this isn't what life is like for the majority of your time that you are conscious and functioning.

For those times that it is though....what one ingredient can HELP in a HUGE WAY ? What one element when interjected into the midst of quarrels, arguments, frowns, and tears ....can alleviate the pain and the angst ?  ...

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I Woke Up and Saw the News and Then Promptly Slammed my Head Against the Wall !

May 13, 2016

 Did we ever think that we would see the day ?
 Did we ?
 The day where the president of the United States is blackmailing school districts all over the country with thousands of dollars of funds if the schools do not allow boys into the girls restrooms and locker rooms and visa versa ?

 Here is my question...when and where does the lunacy stop ?
 At what point do we scream ' enough ?'
 Does something called COMMON SENSE exist at all any more ?

 I believe that it does, but we are literally lettin...

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Back By Popular Demand - Late Night Streaker

May 11, 2016

Posted by Pam Hastings on Thursday, June 4, 2009 Under: Humorous

     When our family bought our house some sixteen years ago, the nice young couple that we bought it from were the original owners. They had lived in the house for five years and were quite proud of the fact that not just them, but that all of the other families on the street were also the original owners of their homes as well…the point being that everyone was obviously very satisfied and...

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The Danger of Jumping to Conclusions

May 9, 2016

If you are breathing right now, you have had the experience of someone jumping to a conclusion about you.

 If their conclusion was positive and favorable, then chances are you we're okay with that.
 If their conclusion was negative and inaccurate, chances are....not so much.

If I have learned anything in my almost 60 years of living, it is that we cannot possibly know what others are really thinking.
We may assume, we may suppose, we may arrive at conclusions about another's thoughts and motive...

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Parents - You Know Your Child Better Than Anyone !

May 4, 2016


 Parents - May I ask you a question ?

 Who do your children live with ?

  For most moms and dads out there, I think the answer for most of you will be that your kiddos live with either their mom, their dad, or both parents. So let me ask you something....who knows your children more intimately than anyone knows them ?  

 The answer is the person that you see in the mirror.

 While this might seem like an obvious conclusion to all of us I sometimes wonder if it is. Why do I say that ? Becau...

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A Night That We Will Always Remember

August 13, 2015
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 Just two nights ago my husband and I were completely surprised by our all of our kids ( which to us is our kids and their spouses ) with a surprise 40th anniversary party. When I say that I was completely shocked, that is not an understatement. The big lie that they told me to get me to come to the restaurant was that we were all meeting for dinner to celebrate my birthday which also had been the day before. That sounded reasonable so of course I had no clue that the bash planned was...

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Consider the Moon the Next Time that you Look at It

July 8, 2015

The moon at night is a perfectly formed circle to our naked eye, is it not ?
I know that if we were up close, it would not actually be a perfect sphere yet from down here it appears that way.
Even that to me, is amazing.

If our entire universe and all of creation was formed by some cataclysmic, random event 
like a huge explosion out of nowhere
a super haphazard, meaningless " big bang "
what are the chances that the moon would look like it does ?

Have you ever thought about that ?

I have


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Are You Raising Resilient Kids ?

June 3, 2015
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Past blog entries of mine have touched on the topic of not over pampering our kids but I do not recall ever writing specifically on the subject of resiliency. Yet my fear is that it is something sorely lacking in parenting today and perhaps this blog is needed.

When my husband and I were raising our kids, we wanted to always stretch them. We wanted to push them. It didn't bother us really to see them in an uncomfortable situation or predicament and to see h...

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