" They Must Be Having a Bad Day "

October 25, 2017

 Everyone reacts poorly when they hear that someone else has said something negative about them.

    Or do they?

    Years ago I heard a sermon where the preacher said " Wouldn't it be great if we all just gave each other the 
    benefit of the doubt ? Can you imagine what kind of world it would be if every time a person heard that 
    someone had said something negative about them, that the person who was talked about would simply say -
    Well, I know that person doesn't truly feel that way about me....they must have been having a bad day!"

    The idea that someone would be so positive, so gracious, so kind as that ; that they would simply refuse to 
    believe that another had criticized them was a revolutionary idea to me and also far fetched. It was simply hard
    to fathom that a person could be that way. 

    What a world it would be if we would all strive for this reaction when hearing anything repeated about us that is  
    not complimentary or flattering. 

    Hey Joe ....did you know that Mike said you were a cheapskate? 
    Joe's response ~ Really? Well, I know Mike doesn't really think that. He must have been having a hard day. 

    Hey Kate ... did you know that Haley said you were a shallow person? 
    Kate's response ~ Oh, well I'm sure that she was misunderstood or maybe she was having a hard day. 

    Does this sound impossible for someone to respond in this manner?
    Can someone actually refuse to believe the negative?
    Is it possible to choose to believe only the best of others? 

    The answer is YES ! Because I know someone just like this. 
    I have never heard this person  say something negative about another and I have never heard them believe  
   anything negative either. It is just their testimony to be that way.  

    Even if we are wrong and something negative was said, so what? 
    By choosing to not believe it, to not focus on it, to not dwell on it, we are the victor. 
    Also, all those who hear our response will be uplifted and helped by our answer. 

    It flies in the face of what we think is owed us.
    It goes against our flesh.
    Yet it must make God smile.

    Something to think about. 






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  Are you a parent, a teacher, a coach ?
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  They can make you yell, scream, moan, and pull your hair out.
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If you are breathing right now, you have had the experience of someone jumping to a conclusion about you.

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 The answer is the person that you see in the mirror.

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If our entire universe and all of creation was formed by some cataclysmic, random event 
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Have you ever thought about that ?

I have


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